In my time as Domme I have heard so many different opinions on this subject and find it quite amazing.
I, myself have never had to go to a point to get one's attention by taking my clothes off. Many men over the years have gotten very bored over seeing just tits and ass,But then there are some who say they cannot serve unless they are aroused by the female flesh.
Has it come down to women as being seen as a sexy object just so men can get a nut off or is it to the point where there is nothing left for us ladies to do to get a real sub?
The women's body is an amazing thing that should be cherish,But should is be shared with just anyone? Who has control when it comes to real serving if the sub tells you he wants to suck on your vagina or ass to please you? Yes, there are many ways to serve ,But are these subs really listening to what your desires are as a Fem Domme?
Somethings are a give and take,but I do not feel that I should have to do things that I find distasteful for me.
Nor should I be disrespected because I want to do things my way as I have been for many years.
Now times have changed and I have done very well with and how I have done in this scene,But have grown to start disliking the scene because of all the nasty and disrespectful comments I get some so called subs.
What happened to respect?
Has it gone out the window? What about a sub making sure his Domme is happy no matter what he has to do and with no question? I have had to block many who have come to me in this manner or not willing to prove to me he is sincere and really into the scene as much as I am. I'm not here to play with your little dicks,Not here to watch you on cam shove shit up in your ass, nor will I allow any of you pathetic minions in my ass or between my legs for YOUR satisfaction. Me,as a woman I know what I can do with my body and how to tease and deny,But I will not be labeled as some cam whore or a porn Domme.
Sex is a major part of BDSM....But for me Fem Domme is more of the power and control that arouses me and keeps my interests. I find it more captivating to know I have someone's mind before his dick! Anyone can get a hard on and can jack off and cum,But it's harder to keep someone's mental simulation and attention. Seems like no one is willing to work hard anymore and like to request things they have not earned. There are many fetishes that I am into and there are many that I am not,But that I find some have a problem with is.... the Financial Domination.
Why is this fetish so bad compared to many others? I mean if many are willing to have sex with strangers/animals get burned and cut and other things that people who are not in the scene would call outrageous then why is this labeled such a bad fetish for those who know nothing about it? Why do Female Dommes get called whores or prostitutes who do this fetish,But when a male Dom wants to do it, then it's ok.... yet there is no sexual involvement?
Maybe mental control and denial,But no actual sexual intercourse. I do not judge on what other do in the scene because I I see it this way.. To each their own! I just find it that those who call them subs are not subs and men who are seeking sex who cannot be as open in the real world as they are in this seen and really need to figure out where they fit.Many who have come to me have looked at my picture and have said to themselves..
"WOW she is hot I bet I can do wtf I want with her and I will be on my happy merry little way".
Sorry to disappoint many of you.... But I have ALWAYS been a Dominant in my real life and in the scene and I will never change who I am for anyone and will NOT allow anyone to try and change me or top me from bottom. I do not have to get naked to get what I want. I do not beg for anyone to serve me. I do not have sex with my subs and never will!
Now has FemDom come down to Clips4sale and videos? Yes they are a quick fix,But if you are seeking something in the long run don't you think that it's impersonal and takes away from the Real time scene and in general or is the cyber world taking over? Does making $4.99 per clip make you a Financial Domme and does that make you men Real subs in serving? I think it shows your adoration to the one you serve or seek to serve,But has it just come down to that?
I know personally that doing Real Time has change and my concern has been safety issue. I have made my site and added the application for my reasons.... SAFETY..... Yes It will not protect me 100% But at least I can get some kind of idea who I'm dealing with and gives me a chance to know who I will consider or allow to serve me. What happened to a sub putting in actual effort to get your attention and willing to do anything it takes to get and keep your attention. You men have gotten very comfortable and lazy. Too comfortable in my book. Now we have so many young girls willing to do anything for a buck that you men have lost track on what real serving is. You lead with your dick in hopes for a cheap thrill and think that everyone you jump on will do the same. Well you are sadly mistaken!
I remember when the ladies used to back each other up and used to catch many subs in lie and make them pay for their mistakes. Now it seems like tit for tat and it doesn't look good when a sub knows how to push your buttons and get away with it and laugh as if you are a joke. The cam verify was a great option for us ladies because we knew who was who and who was doing what. Not to say who could be in the scene or not,But to protect ourselves and subs.
Now it just comes down to cockiness and stupidity that is seriously not needed.
I have earned my time as Domme no matter what fetishes I am into because I have educated myself,have plenty of hands on and have looked into so many other fetishes that I do not do to be able to try and understand more and more or what is going on. I just didn't wake up one day and say... Oh shit I want to be a Domme today.... Oh and my bill is due and I will find some sap to pay it. It's so much more than that.
The FemDomme scene is part of my life and always will be. Nothing can change that... But as the scene changes in more way than one... Will I be willing to go along with these changes and accept them as the new and leave the old???
Who knows.... Only time can tell!
I, myself have never had to go to a point to get one's attention by taking my clothes off. Many men over the years have gotten very bored over seeing just tits and ass,But then there are some who say they cannot serve unless they are aroused by the female flesh.
Has it come down to women as being seen as a sexy object just so men can get a nut off or is it to the point where there is nothing left for us ladies to do to get a real sub?
The women's body is an amazing thing that should be cherish,But should is be shared with just anyone? Who has control when it comes to real serving if the sub tells you he wants to suck on your vagina or ass to please you? Yes, there are many ways to serve ,But are these subs really listening to what your desires are as a Fem Domme?
Somethings are a give and take,but I do not feel that I should have to do things that I find distasteful for me.
Nor should I be disrespected because I want to do things my way as I have been for many years.
Now times have changed and I have done very well with and how I have done in this scene,But have grown to start disliking the scene because of all the nasty and disrespectful comments I get some so called subs.
What happened to respect?
Has it gone out the window? What about a sub making sure his Domme is happy no matter what he has to do and with no question? I have had to block many who have come to me in this manner or not willing to prove to me he is sincere and really into the scene as much as I am. I'm not here to play with your little dicks,Not here to watch you on cam shove shit up in your ass, nor will I allow any of you pathetic minions in my ass or between my legs for YOUR satisfaction. Me,as a woman I know what I can do with my body and how to tease and deny,But I will not be labeled as some cam whore or a porn Domme.
Sex is a major part of BDSM....But for me Fem Domme is more of the power and control that arouses me and keeps my interests. I find it more captivating to know I have someone's mind before his dick! Anyone can get a hard on and can jack off and cum,But it's harder to keep someone's mental simulation and attention. Seems like no one is willing to work hard anymore and like to request things they have not earned. There are many fetishes that I am into and there are many that I am not,But that I find some have a problem with is.... the Financial Domination.
Why is this fetish so bad compared to many others? I mean if many are willing to have sex with strangers/animals get burned and cut and other things that people who are not in the scene would call outrageous then why is this labeled such a bad fetish for those who know nothing about it? Why do Female Dommes get called whores or prostitutes who do this fetish,But when a male Dom wants to do it, then it's ok.... yet there is no sexual involvement?
Maybe mental control and denial,But no actual sexual intercourse. I do not judge on what other do in the scene because I I see it this way.. To each their own! I just find it that those who call them subs are not subs and men who are seeking sex who cannot be as open in the real world as they are in this seen and really need to figure out where they fit.Many who have come to me have looked at my picture and have said to themselves..
"WOW she is hot I bet I can do wtf I want with her and I will be on my happy merry little way".
Sorry to disappoint many of you.... But I have ALWAYS been a Dominant in my real life and in the scene and I will never change who I am for anyone and will NOT allow anyone to try and change me or top me from bottom. I do not have to get naked to get what I want. I do not beg for anyone to serve me. I do not have sex with my subs and never will!
Now has FemDom come down to Clips4sale and videos? Yes they are a quick fix,But if you are seeking something in the long run don't you think that it's impersonal and takes away from the Real time scene and in general or is the cyber world taking over? Does making $4.99 per clip make you a Financial Domme and does that make you men Real subs in serving? I think it shows your adoration to the one you serve or seek to serve,But has it just come down to that?
I know personally that doing Real Time has change and my concern has been safety issue. I have made my site and added the application for my reasons.... SAFETY..... Yes It will not protect me 100% But at least I can get some kind of idea who I'm dealing with and gives me a chance to know who I will consider or allow to serve me. What happened to a sub putting in actual effort to get your attention and willing to do anything it takes to get and keep your attention. You men have gotten very comfortable and lazy. Too comfortable in my book. Now we have so many young girls willing to do anything for a buck that you men have lost track on what real serving is. You lead with your dick in hopes for a cheap thrill and think that everyone you jump on will do the same. Well you are sadly mistaken!
I remember when the ladies used to back each other up and used to catch many subs in lie and make them pay for their mistakes. Now it seems like tit for tat and it doesn't look good when a sub knows how to push your buttons and get away with it and laugh as if you are a joke. The cam verify was a great option for us ladies because we knew who was who and who was doing what. Not to say who could be in the scene or not,But to protect ourselves and subs.
Now it just comes down to cockiness and stupidity that is seriously not needed.
I have earned my time as Domme no matter what fetishes I am into because I have educated myself,have plenty of hands on and have looked into so many other fetishes that I do not do to be able to try and understand more and more or what is going on. I just didn't wake up one day and say... Oh shit I want to be a Domme today.... Oh and my bill is due and I will find some sap to pay it. It's so much more than that.
The FemDomme scene is part of my life and always will be. Nothing can change that... But as the scene changes in more way than one... Will I be willing to go along with these changes and accept them as the new and leave the old???
Who knows.... Only time can tell!